Ever wonder how to attract women when you don’t think you’ve got what it takes? It turns out, you do – you just don’t know it.

She strides in through the doorway, leather boots squeaking slightly against the polished bar floor. She has high cheekbones and short black hair. In combination with her flower print skirt, she evinces a Brazilian vibe with those endless legs and bronzed skin. Of course you’ve noticed her — but is she going to notice you?

In nature as in life, like attracts like. You’re not going to win anybody’s heart if you’re slumped in the corner crumpling napkins, hoping someone will see your inner beauty. If you want to know how to attract women, you must display the qualities you personally find appealing. It’s not just about good looks, per se; good looks are frequently as much about your appearance as your attitude.

Learning how to attract women starts in the shower with a thorough soaping, scrubbing, and inspection of your body. Do you like your body? Even if you have a few areas you wouldn’t want on the cover of a magazine, make sure you’re taking care of yourself. Are you eating properly? Are you exercising on a semi-regular basis? Your shape doesn’t matter — it’s how you feel. If you feel sexy, everyone around you is going to feel it, too. Nothing’s sexier than someone who feels sexy, which is why guys who more closely resemble a pear than a washboard often find themselves fending off a crowd of ladies.

Secondly, what’s happening with your wardrobe? You don’t have to buy out the local designer store, but you should dress yourself in clothes that compliment your figure while making you feel comfortable. A pair of new jeans and a nice button-down shirt can go a long way to winning a woman’s heart, but flip flops and ragged cotton work-out pants are not going to create a love stampede. Think about that Brazilian woman, with her boots and her beautiful skirt — you are attracted to her in part because she’s wearing clothes that make her feel sexy.

All you have to do is spend a little time learning how to put yourself together. As the Brazilian woman enters the bar, let her know with a simple smile and relaxed posture that you’re happy to be there. In a heartbeat, she’ll be happy to be there with you.